I help parents all over the world to support a son or daughter suffering from anorexia or another eating disorder.
I can support you by video call (like Skype) and/or by email.
I'm a parent, I've produced a book and videos, I give talks and training in the NHS, I campaign for better services, and -- this is the bit you may be looking for -- I offer one-to-one support or coaching to parents.
Find out more about individual support or coaching
This page of my website tells you more: http://anorexiafamily.com/indi...
And there are also videos on YouTube where I explain what I can do for you, and you can hear testimonials too:
Helping you access a more empowered state
We often feel isolated, sensing that we can't truly share with others what's going on for us. That's an extra layer of suffering - human beings need connection. I can be a compassionate companion, so that you feel listened to and accompanied with care.
Our suffering can be overwhelming. We cry all the time. We carry a sense of dread or anger. We are confused, exhausted and there's no room for clear-thinking, patience or love. I can help you access a mindful, compassionate, empowered state, where you actually feel well. A well-resourced state from where you can make wise decisions and act in line with what really matters to you. You can experience this shift of state during our calls and gain tools for when the next difficulty comes up. My experience is that in the longer term this increases our resilience and capacity for wellbeing. Think of it as post-traumatic growth.
Coaching you so you're not walking on eggshells
If you're struggling with what to say and how to say it, I can offer coaching based on principles of compassionate communication, and on my learning and experience.
Parents face daily challenges as they support their child through meals and other highly charged situations. I can offer practical pointers based on my own experience and that of many other parents.
Helping you work out your next steps
Prompt, effective treatment greatly increases the likelihood of recovery. I spend many hours keeping myself updated to save you hours of research, delays and heartache.
We are faced with choices every step along the way of our child's recovery. I can help you clarify your thoughts and review your options, and I will share what I've learned from hours of connecting with other parents too.
What eating disorders do you cover?My personal experience is with child/adolescent with anorexia, and this is where most of my ongoing reading and learning goes. There are parents of adults, and parents of someone with another type of eating disorder, who also regularly consult me because of the empathy and communication support they get from me.
Peace of mind for you: if you are not happy with our first session, you can choose not to pay for it. I will be glad to hear from you. Email me, writing me a few lines about where you're at and what you'd like from me. Give me an idea of days and times that suit you, and if you'd like an hour or an hour and a half. You can propose a time on doodle.com/evamusby. I aim to get back to you within 2 working days - usually sooner.
Competence My book is recommended by the top specialists in eating disorders world-wide, and most CAMHS in the UK seem to recommend it to parents. Reviews from professionals here: http://anorexiafamily.com/feedback-specialists-eating-disorders/ Expertise Parents can end up with so much expertise! For my part, writing a book and revising it every few months means that I keep myself engaged in the world of research, I keep learning from clinicians through personal or group contacts, and from parents, who have busy online networks. Helping you decide if I'm a good fit for you Do you engage with my personality in my writings and videos? If so, chances are you'll feel well supported one-on-one. Like you I have lived, over and over again, the ups and downs of supporting my child through an eating disorder through a range of pre-teen and later teen stages. I know how it feels. I know the importance of both practical know-how and emotional support. I also know that one size does not fit all, that parents need flexibility and empathy for their own particular situation. My desire is that you should feel understood, and never judged, patronized or lectured to. I have accumulated thousands of hours communicating with parents and clinicians, learning from a wide range of parents' and sufferers' experience, reading research and talking with clinicians and researchers. I am active in the field of eating disorders through online groups, and presently represent parents on a national health steering group for clinicians. That's saving you a lot of precious time and energy finding your way in a fast-moving field. I've been learning about psychology and self-help since my teens. I have studied and practised emotional skills for so long they are now second nature. I have hours of courses and practice in Nonviolent Communication and mindfulness under my belt. What this means is that spending time with me should bring out the best in you. I am learning, updating myself, going on courses and workshops, getting supervision (I will discuss confidentiality with you), so what you're getting is the best of me and of my own network at any time. What I am NOT offering I do not have official qualifications as a psychologist or psychotherapist. Although I am well informed about many therapeutic methods and I have benefited from several myself, and could discuss them with you, I do not propose to heal past traumas €” there are evidence-based approaches for this for which I am not specifically qualified. I am very glad when people enjoy several sources of support in parallel. I am not proposing to treat your child. I would hope to be a useful adjunct to what a good treatment team is doing for you. I will not tell you what to feed your child, how much she should weigh, whether he should be in hospital or out of school or on bed rest. On the other hand, if what you tell me about your child's treatment worries me, I will share what I know from research and experience, and will offer to help you with your decision-making process. I am not pretending to have everything in my life worked out. I'm on a journey too and I learn more every day.Tell us if this listing needs updating